For some reason, depression is something a lot of people aren’t comfortable talking about, even though it affects approximately 1 in 6 people at some point in their lifetime. Think of it this way: you’re sitting in a baseball stadium filled with people. Now, break up the stadium into six pieces. 1/6th of the people there have or will experience depression. That’s so many people and that’s only a tiny piece of a much larger picture.
I think we’re afraid to talk about it because there’s this pressure to appear perfect to the world. We broadcast so much of ourselves online now, and it’s easy to pick and choose the best parts of ourselves to share. We obsess over the best caption, the best angle, the perfect post. We sit in such close proximity to the next person on our newsfeed that it’s impossible not to compare. (Yes, I am writing a post about social media detoxing soon!)
No one is perfect. We all have flaws. Yet, we ignore this and compare our blooper reels to everyone else’s Oscar worthy performance. It’s unfair. It sets impossible standards and takes away from our authentic self, and our authenticity in our relationships with the people around is.
One thing about depression is it’s isolating. Depression starts telling you that you’re alone, that you deserve to be alone, that you’re a burden to others, that people don’t like you, and won’t miss you when you’re gone.
It’s all a lie. Every single mean thing that depression tells you is a lie. And maybe you already know that or maybe you’re shaking your head and scoffing because “This girl on the internet definitely doesn’t know a thing about me.”
Either way, knowing this truth or not, really doesn’t change the fact that you feel this way.
That’s why it’s so important to talk about it. So imperative and urgent to reach out when you feel alone or you think someone else might be feeling alone. Talk about your experiences, the low points, the breaking points. One day, you’ll talk about how it gets better, how you pulled yourself out of it and conquered an illness that tried so hard to conquer you.
I once went to a mental health lecture and when the doctor was discussing common delusions of schizophrenia, he made a statement that when he put his patients in a group, multiple people would start claiming they were Jesus (a common delusion of grandeur). By the end of the group session, they were able to work it out that they surely weren’t all Jesus, maybe none of them were Jesus. Ding ding ding! We have the answer!
I think this works for depression too (and all mental illnesses really). When you start having open and honest conversations about how you feel, you start realizing you’re not alone. You start feeling less “crazy.” You start realizing that things can get better. You realize that depression is not your fault.
It does get better.
In my next post, I’ll be discussing my personal journey with depression and the many different forms it can take. Before I continue any further with this post, I want to encourage you to consider professional help if you feel it necessary. I can give you advice all day about living with mental illnesses and keeping a positive mindset, but I cannot prescribe you medication (and sometimes that may be what you need). You
I’ll leave you with one piece of advice today: Do something nice for yourself. Maybe it’s a bubble bath, a glass of wine, a new book. I promise, YOU deserve it. Then do something that will help future you. Pack a healthy lunch for work, make your bed, go ahead and meet that deadline a day early. Give your future self a little break. And lastly, do something you’ll be proud of yourself for doing. For me that’s getting outside and getting active. Even if you don’t want to, I recommend you do these things anyway. And then tuck yourself into bed, get a great night’s sleep, wake up and do it all over again!
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